Guy Goes On Amazing First Date But Girl Can't Make Up Her Mind And Totally Gives Him Whiplash

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    Font - r/dating Posted by u/akorn77 3 days ago S Girl rejected me after 3rd date. After one day she says she made a mistake. What the hell is going on? I Need Advice M31, spoke to a girl (26F) for 7 weeks, which was awesome. We had an amazing first date, which lasted 6 hours and definite spark. We then arranged a 2nd date but she came to the date very cold and distant. Seems she had already made up her mind after the 1st date! Somehow we also had a 3rd date. After the final date I called her out
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    Font - LyricalPig 3 days ago Bud, I just went through the same thing about a month ago. Matched with a girl. She was out of town so we talked/FT for a few days and then scheduled a date. The anticipation was crazy so it ended up being an all-day date that started and finished at my house. It wasn't just physical, we talked about what a relationship looked like, good communication, understanding each others' boundaries, etc. Monday her work got busy and she rain-checked our date mid-week. I was s
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    Font - 28eord 3 days ago muh fearful avoidant attachment style, but not wanting to be alone 38 Reply Share Report Save Follow
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    Font - kiwis_in_pasta. 3 days ago She'll be the one who'll ghost you 6 months into your relationship. Run 533 Reply Share Report Save Follow
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    Font - Scary-Inspector-8315 3 days ago Sorry but no. For your own mental health you should stay away from this girl. 56 Reply Share Report Save Follow
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    Font - wanderingwoman 70 3 days ago Walk away. She doesn't know what she wants, but I'd guess she only wants what she can't have, which is why she changed her mind when you said "fine". Start paying attention to her again and she'll lose interest again. This girl is going to play games and F with your head if you let her. Find someone who is mentally stable, emotionally mature and intelligent, knows what they want, and isn't going to play games. Reply Share Report Save Follow 17
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    Product - Goateed_Chocolate 3 days ago edited 3 days ago Guessing either she has some level of bipolar thing going on, or you were her Plan B and her Plan A just fell through Reply Share Report Save Follow 438
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    Font - BusterDander - 3 days ago Sounds like she might have intimacy issues. Getting too close too quick then feeling smothered. She probably needs to work on yourself. As others have said, run. 29 Reply Share Report Save Follow
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    Font - 14kr 3 days ago Something similiar happened to me over the span of 2 months, ended up in a semi-heartbreak (still hurt tho). She doesn't hate you. But whatever you do - don't get vulnerable. I understand the temptation but just chill. You don't wanna be the next in line. 58 Reply Share Report Save Follow
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    Font - Cruisingfor Clothes 3 days ago Either: • she's flaky and doesn't know what she wants/doesn't want • she was dating someone else and hoped to go with him, but he dumped her/did the same thing she did to you. 8 Reply Share Report Save Follow
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    Font - Pookahantus 3 days ago As someone who has totally been this girl!!!! It sounds like she doesn't know what she wants really. Like there is more of an internal struggle... and probably has nothing to do with anything you've done. If you're looking for something more serious.. she might not be the best choice right now. If you're interested in her you could bring up your confused feelings and ask her to take a moment to think about what she wants and what she's looking for. If she's still wi
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    Font - ColonelGray 3 days ago The other guy ghosted her so she's pulling plan B out of the bin Reply Share Report Save Follow 16
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    Font - ijsjemeisje 3 days ago She has attachment issues. It's an attract and push off behaviour, which she is, for now (assumption) subconscious off. People who do this get an extreme high of endorphins and dopamines when they get together with their partner again, but will create trouble after you two get to close as this is alarming for them. Feeling safe = abnormal and feeling unsafe = normal. They will create this pattern until they go in therapy. Leaving a trail of hurt behind. If you can l
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    Font - TVA_Titan 3 days ago Okay I think I'm going to go against the grain in this one and say maybe talk it through with her a bit more? She told you she wants an instant spark but she went on the second date anyway so there was something there. The reason she told you that was because as you said yourself, you pressed her on why she was a little distant after the second date. Maybe she likes you and is just trying to sort out her feelings. Dating these days is hard. Especially with the interne

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